Our guest this week is Vox journalist Liz Plank. Liz recently published her first book, "For The Love of Men: A Vision for Mindful Masculinity". We talk extensively about how men are cheated by patriarchal attitudes about masculinity and Liz has done the research. Finally, Liz helps us with an advice question from someone who thinks he doesn't have any game when it comes to dating.

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Our question this week:

Hey Man, 

I’m 28 and ended a 2 year relationship roughly 9 months ago. Before that relationship, I had a few girlfriends, but didn’t date that much. Now, I’ve been trying hard to date around but I’m extremely self-conscious about my inability to talk to women. I don’t know how to flirt or pick women up. Many times, if I’m using an app, the conversations just fizzle out. If it’s in person, I can be shy and take a while to warm up, which I’m sure is a turn off. There’s no sexual tension or chemistry and, outside of one night of post break-up sex with my ex, I haven’t had sex with anyone in the 9 months. 

Most of the time I’m just convinced that the dates are awkward and I never bother to follow up. They almost never follow up with me, so I imagine the feeling is mutual. Looking back, I realize that the majority of relationships I’ve been in are because the women pursued it, not me. But that seems so weak and pathetic. How do I go about actually dating women that I want to date?

Signed, 

Game-less in Greenpoint